Kedu,
I bring you greetings from Igbo
land, South-South region of Nigeria today by saying: “Hello”. Hope you are
doing good and you had a great weekend thus far. What’s the result of the
gubernatorial elections from your state? God will stretch forth his hand of
greatness towards our country. Amen.
Today’s piece will be highly controversial
and I want to stand by it. I want to ask, how would you effectively separate a
couple? How do you untangle the romantic aspect of their lives? The items
bought together? How would you share the children? Unpaid loans to one another?
There is no judge that can effectively share it all; someone who have more to
loss while the other gains more than the actual contributions.
Separation is a phenomenon when one of the couple gets
tired, get frustrated or gets forced out of a union. There is a need to reflect on what you do
wrong as spouses. For every negative situation, either of the couple would be
at fault; there are times when the man is wrong but would not want to accept it
and vice versa. However, when one understands how to communicate effectively;
then there is a resolution faster than assumed. If we learn to unlearn what we
have known over the years for the new things our marriage would teach us, then,
we would easily change. However, life-threatening situations are the only
condition through which separation is allowed.
Determination is having a dogged attitude to keep the union
alive against all odds. I have found myself in very absurd situations in
marriage and I have been tagged strict because I have values that I cherish. I
might be seen as belonging to the old generation to keep this posture but I
think it is worthwhile. Determined and faithful partners should be encouraged
just like virgins. It is only determination that would stop all negative incitements
from having its way.
We keep seeing God as having made a mistake creating the
male and female gender to raise children. The roles are separate and
independent of one another. You might have all the affluence to train the
children but the wrong influence during the formative years remains with them,
as such; the standard of the parents is the norm.
Taking lessons from the Western culture would not help us as
a whole. If we do not play roles that are beyond what nature ordained. We would
be able to cross the little hurdles thrown at our union- financial, academic,
in-law influences and others.
Do not be recruited into wrong train regardless of how you
got into marriage-rushed, coerced, willingly or hypnotized. Kindly learn to
fight for it protectively, carefully and prayerfully.
Remember, whoever does not have what he stand for will fall
for everything!
God help us!
Olutayo