Omoime,
As a Nigerian who appreciates the heterogeneous nature of
the country. I said “My friends” in Ishan language of Edo State. It is a great
day to reach out to you with our weekly diet. I wished to have ran away
(stopping this series) but I found myself in love with it and am glued to
writing it.
Have you ever gone to an office, waiting for the boss but
someone will just come in; ask the Personal Assistant (PA) or Secretary if the
boss is inside the office, notwithstanding, if there was someone else with him;
he would walk in boldly. You have to wait for the authorization of the PA or
Secretary to go for your discussion. Let’s discuss intermediary versus Direct
Access.
An intermediary is the go-between you and the person that
you need something from; the intermediary might be for PA or Secretary, a close
pal to the person, a blood relative etc. It is however, saddening, for blood
relatives not to have direct access to one another until another relative
intervenes. The need for intermediary came as a result of artificial distance
created by parents who try to jealously guard and guide their children from
relating to others. Also, we thank God for social media that has broken down
this barrier a bit.
Direct Access is exactly as written; I have direct access to
my parents and other associates. There is no person that needs to authorize a
child’s request to the father. There is no limit to discussion with someone
that one has direct access to. Direct access is what makes close kin of top
executive exchange banters with him either in the office or at home. As
customary to political office holders, around here, who go about with security details,
those who see them have direct access.
The need for an intermediary or having direct access is
dependent on our relationship. I have found out that there is no important
person; your level of closeness determines the importance of the person.
Develop your relationship so as to gain direct access and not wait for an
intermediary. The anticipated intermediary might fail but having direct access
is the based on you!
Have a week filled with Direct Access to good things of
life!
Cheers!