As a true Nigerian, I have coming
in the similitude of an Ijaw man, I just said ‘hello’. Hope it has been a great
weekend? Hope the zeal to make great success is still burning in you for 2016?
Let’s not get tired from the first quarter of the year. Arise... for the
journey is too great. We would make good success if only we do not desist from
pursuing our dreams and visions. I appreciate everyone who has supported us
thus far, this is the 101st edition of Versus Series.
Gone are the days when satellite
television was exclusive to the elite; everyone has a form of digital
television now. When movies are to be showed; the rating of the movie is shown;
some reads ‘viewers’ discretion is advised’. As a little digression, people in
Lagos, especially, have little or no time (an assertion subscribed to by many);
the endless chase for money makes children gain ‘independence’ early. To
further compound, the issue, parents take these positions at different times in
life’ these are the child is young and naive. Also, the child is now old enough
to use his or her discretion. This independence now determines if the race
would race according to ‘juvenile delinquency’ or parental or elderly guidance.
Adolescence is the scariest phase
of life. It is time when the blank ‘slate’ on the heart of children finally
gets engaged through ‘positive writing or negative writing.’ This writing is
dependent on the types of association they keep; the type of independence they
are given and the type of parents they have. There are many children who took
up ‘terrible’ habits while in secondary school while those who could not muster
the courage get to tertiary institution to show their stunts. Adolescents do
not need total independence.
Parental guidance is the delicate
work of parents and guidance to nurture their children. Unfortunately, most
parents are experts in correcting other people’s children while they leave
their children to ‘rot’. Parental
guidance becomes effective when these children have imbibed the teachings of
their parents; know the stand of their parents and can determine the response
of their parents to whatever they do. There is a mode of reasoning by many
people of my generation, ‘What Would Mummy Say?’ Not basically because they
have made us fearful but because we see ourselves as worthy ambassadors.
There is a saying; it is better
to train boys than to mend men! I remember greatly disciplined parents who
would stand their feet and tell their children to the face, ‘If I still pay your bills or if you still
stay in my house; then you cannot do that’. This is the turning point for
many children. Parents should keep their stamp of authority till the child is
finally independent and the good guidance which is equally good training is
instilled into that child.
Make a choice either you want to
battle with delinquent children later in life or you want to be parents of well
Enjoy your week!
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