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Aligwu Nyiam,
Trust you had a great week? I am
still in solidarity with my Benue friends; I have come to you in Igede language
saying ‘my friend’. Let me
congratulate our Mothers; I am proud to be associated with different category
of women who have impacted my life positively over the years: my daughter, my wife,
aunties, my mother, my grandmothers and many foster women. I hope that one day;
I will have the opportunity to write more about them.
I do not know if this applies to
all cultures but I am sure that there are certain people that we revere and would
not want to ignore their words ‘mi o lẹ
ko ọrọ siyin lẹnu’. Many times, we unwillingly take to their stand because
of the person involved. The response is usually you are so dear to me that is
why I am taking this advice, ‘e
tobi lọwọ mi’. Let’s go to today’s discourse, disdain versus
deference.
Disdain is a state of feeling of
contempt for anyone regarded as unworthy, haughty, contempt and scorn. When a
person is showing this trait, the person does not want to the opinion of the
person. Many times, even at close range, the word of that person is not taken
with a pinch of salt.
Deference is the state of utmost
respect. The person has the ability to ‘correct, chastise and impact on your
life. People are held in deference are usually more experienced than the person
in question, they would have impacted on your life and their contributions to
the previous achievements cannot be overlooked.
What’s the crux of the matter,
everyone has someone that is held in deference; they have the ‘reset’ button to
the person’s character when some wrong attitudes set in. For every
relationship, locate that person your associate holds in deference and report
the person so that restoration can happen before things turn worse.
The challenge for everyone is
this, can you be held in deference? Even your children, do they look to you in
deference? Have you lost your deference to some flimsy attitudes of life? All
category of leaders at all facet of life must not toy with his deference because
many times, once it is lost, it cannot be recovered.
There is a respected leader in
everyone and it must not be lost to disdain.
Have a Wonderful Mothers Day.
Cheers!
Olutayo